Social Media Anxiety Disorder & You

Snow is on the ground. The trees are bare. The wind chills to the bone. There is no laughing and playing in the summer sun; there is only a heated blanket, Netflix, and your many social networks. You feel depressed.

Is it S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder)? Or is it S.M.A.D.???

As you may recall from a previous post the business magazine, Forbes, has recently begun focusing on social media. (As well they should now that it is a booming industry.) Well, I came across this startling article on New Year's Day: 3 Reasons to Quit Social Media in 2013

The last two reasons came as no surprise, but the first one struck me. It spoke of a mood condition affecting many social media users these days - Social Media Anxiety Disorder.

Social Media Anxiety Disorder & You!

The Fall term has finally ended, and Jimmy finished his first semester of college with a nice 3.45 G.P.A. Quite the achievement! He decides to leave campus and get some much needed R&R with his parents in Mitchell, South Dakota (his hometown). While he catches up on the past season of The Walking Dead and Breaking Bad, he has Facebook up in another tab.

On Facebook, he discovers his dorm roommate is in Guatemala doing charity work. His ex-girlfriend has her big time internship on LinkedIn. Tons of his old friends and classmates are posting pics of their tropical vacation tans on Instagram. Meanwhile, Jimmy tweets: "Dexter is crazy!!!"

He suddenly feels like an unremarkable, lazy, worthless college brat who is wasting his life.

I'm sure everyone has felt like Jimmy at one point or another. You've accomplished some great things, but they've all been overshadowed by the accomplishments of your Facebook friends. Leaving you to feel like your accomplishments are minuscule in comparison and the effort you put in to achieve what you have isn't good enough.

It's a concept in Psychology known as social comparison. In many ways, our self esteem is built from the esteem we have for others. If you're the only kid in class with an 'A', you feel great! Likewise, if you're the only kid in class without an 'A', you feel like an idiot.

Social media plays a huge part because of the number of people you're constantly comparing yourself to on a daily basis. Childhood chums, high school friends, your current co-workers all posting about major happenings in their lives makes you wonder what has been happening in yours. And, unless you've had some major accomplishment recently, (which, let's face it, isn't extremely often for normal people) you feel bad.

Congrats, Patrice! You know what I did today? I made a grilled cheese sandwich. Take that!!!

Yeah, it sucks! But is it a reason to quit social media this year?

What do you think?

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What Does It Mean To Be A "Geek"?

I recently came across this rant/article on the Forbes website (of all places), and it got me thinking...

In the article, the author (Tara Tiger Brown) chastises the modern geek culture and reflects on what the word "geek" meant when she was a growing geek. In short, where "geek" was once an insult to kids obsessed with something obscure, "geek" has now become a sub-cultural badge of honor bestowed on anyone who plays video games.

Or wears glasses like these.

Now that being a geek is kinda cool, who deserves the title? 

What does it mean to be a geek???

Geeks are often stereotyped as being abnormally adept at math, science, technology, video games, and comic books. However, I agree with Brown's point about obsession. In my eyes, a true geek is someone who has dove head-first into a unique obsession!

For instance, I have learned a lot of Japanese phrases and cultural tidbits from watching anime. So much so, I would consider myself an anime geek! And, believe me, that isn't the only interest that makes me a geek...

In fact, "geek" is often used to describe personality, right? In that case, a geek is a person who often finds something of interest and obsesses over it.

Just a few things I've been obsessed with:

• The Powerpuff Girls
• WWE
• Dragonball Z
• Bleach
• The Big Bang Theory
• British Television
• Telenovelas (Spanish soap operas)
• The Sims games

While I agree that the change in connotation has created  geek wannabes (as any popular subculture creates wannabes), I think the celebration of geek-hood is great! Geeks are like superheros in a way; they often have enough unique knowledge to be able to do some amazing things, like build a hoverboard or a burning laser.

How do I feel about these wannabes?

You can wear the nerd glasses - I admit they are quite stylish - and the geeky t-shirts all you like; it doesn't make you a geek. In fact, you're missing the funnest part! Real geeks aren't geeks because of how they dress or to make themselves attractive to another social group. Real geeks find massive entertainment in something the distinguishes them from the average fan. They are individuals who enjoy what they enjoy despite the opinions of others.

So if you want to impersonate a geek, go ahead. There is only two outcomes: (a) you realize you are not a geek and give up the charade OR (b) ....

...you'll get sucked in.

What does being a geek mean to you?

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